Friday, October 30, 2009

Monterey Workshops

Its Friday, and as exhausted as I am, I'm also on an energy high.  We (Don, my husband and co-trainer) got to Monterey Tuesday afternoon and settled in to our hotel, had dinner and began to go over for the final time our workshops.  We always do this because it helps us be fresh and have our minds in tune with the next day's activities.

We met with Elizabeth the youth center Director there at the Presideo.  They have a really spacious and well laid out center with lots of places for lots of various activities, classes and fun.  We were expecting about 55 kids, Kindergarten through 3rd grade, and ended up with 60.  The kids were incredibly alert, energetic and cooperative.  We kept them for about an hour in  sessions and the session with the 4-6th graders. Our topic was Bully Prevention.  Knowing that you can't keep children of this age interested without some activity we do several impromptu role-plays and get them really involved; telling them right out the gate that we were there so they could teach us what they know. 

It was a real ride with both the first group of K-3 and then the 4th through 6th graders, where we faced off with about 50 more kids.  We got several pictures which will be up on our website by Monday. What makes the workshops we do for the Army families so much fun is that these kids have a head start over most civilian children and teens.  The training they get at home goes farther in personal safety, I suppose because of the very nature of what their military parent does. 

Later that afternoon we had the teens, grades 7-12.  The topic this time was Safe Dating.  Its always interesting to talk with teens on this subject.  We find, even with the military teens that there are many things they either didn't realize or hadn't thought of or weren't sure of.  This group of about 20 was pretty savvy, but we were able to enlighten them on several point.

A sad note is that just a few cities away in Richmond, a 15 year old girl was gang raped just a night or two before, outside of a school dance by 10 guys.  All this happened while about a dozen others looked on.  No one called 911 and there were many things that went wrong with the security issues by the school for the time the dance was going on.  7 of the 10 guys have now been arrested, so far they range from age 15 to 21. There will be more facts coming out on this horrible situation soon and I'll share them on this blog, but it helped me make a really good point about personal responsibility for their actions, and being aware of things going on around them. It also helped me make the point that standing by and doing nothing whether its a bully, rape, or any kind of assault, you are sharing in the guilt when you  tell no one.  We emphasized that it isn't necessary for them to step in and try to stop what is happening, especially if they are fearful for their life. But it is necessary for them to immediately go tell someone who can do something about it; or if they have a cell phone immediately to call 911.   

That night we met with several parents and did our parent workshop that was very well received. 

All in all along with a special morning after work excursion, at the Monterey Bay Aquarium, it was a successful, meaningful, and memorable trip. 

Our thanks go out to Lynn Dettrich, the Family Advocacy Program Manger and her staff for making our time there most positive and enjoyable.

Friday, October 23, 2009

First Twitter & Blog Week Ends

What a week this has been. I'm finally getting the hang of Twitter, still some small issues to figure out.  But I'm making some wonderful connections and finding organizations and individuals that I would never have come across had I not started twittering.

So far I have 56 followers and I'm following 160 people/organizations.  Its gratifying to see so many socially conscious people who are working as tirelessly for their causes as we are for ours.  Those I follow have care and concern primarily for children, but for woman and people in general.  Groups who are fighting human trafficking like "@NoMoreTraffic", "@HelpTakAction", "@EndDemand", "@antitrafficking" "@lauralederer".  Then there are those who are in the same field as we are, wanting to protect and help keep children safe from sexual abuse, abduction and exploitation in various forms like "@lescnet", "@StopItNow", "@wiredmom", "@noviceleftbehind", "molesterfinder" and "@predatorbuster."

There are so many more and I'll be mentioning them in later blogs, but for now just wanted to say thanks to all those who are following me on Twitter.  Be patience with this old horse.  I'm still learning and it takes a little longer than it use to, but eventually I get it and when I do, I'm jet fueled and can't be stopped.

We've been working hard this week to be sure we are ready for the wonderful kids, teens and parents at Presideo Monterey next week.  I have found as we have traveled around the country over the past several years, that military kids are a bit more prepared than the average bear.  These kids are in homes where one and sometimes both parents are deployed quite often so the family units are usually closer knit.  The parents are diligent about teaching what they know about personal safety.  We get to come in and fill in the gaps and let the kids know just how many advocates they have working on their behalf. 

The military in general is impressive when it comes to caring about the families of their military personnel.  The Army has their Family Advocacy Program, and their Army National Guard is Operation Ready Families.  The Air Force has the Family Support Center and the Navy has the Fleet and Family Support Center.  While we haven't had an opportunity to work with the Marine Corp because their policies (at least in our area of concern) deal primarily with intervention rather than prevention, they also have a unit that is also called Family Advocacy.

These internal military organizations have a wide variety of programs directed at assisting the families in many aspects of daily life.  From Domestic Abuse Prevention, Drug & Alcohol programs, parenting help and much more to our field of sexual abuse, abduction and exploitation prevention.

The Army and the Army National Guard seem to have taken the lead in taking this problem on.  Their regulations mandate this kind of education and we have been most honored and feel very privileged to be able to continue to work with them year after year. 

Tomorrow is another day, and my eyelids are getting heavier by the minute. So in closing here's a prayer for all of those children who are missing tonight and the families that ache to have them home again.
Night All

Monday, October 19, 2009

Twitter, Blogging & Workshops

The autumn breeze, overcast skies,  and light sprinkles have created a moody atmosphere today.  As I sit here writing today's post wishing I had something to help clear my head cold, sipping on some hot mint tea I can't help but reflect on how intense this past week has been.  (Background info)-About 10 years ago we were having some problems finding someone who could print/publish our materials at a cost that wouldn't cut into our funding too deeply.  The problem was in order to do so we had to order literally thousands of each item to make it cost effective. Since that was not an option we decided to self publish and thus began an entirely new adventure. ) Fast forward to 10 years later: We have managed to keep our clients happy because we bust our tushes to get the materials printed and shipped in a very timely manner. Because we print on the fly we have little back stock.

About 3 weeks ago we got our largest contract ever. The California National Guard ordered 1000 of our 'My Teen Safe Dating Journals', 3000 of our Parenting Your Kids Away From Abuse: A Parent's Guide..." and 6 of our K-12 Personal Protection Empowerment Program master sets.  That, my friends is a grand amount of printing.  So we started printing. Day and night, we worked , pulling our volunteers in to help bind and bag and box. Finallly, today we drove it over to San Luis Obispo to their base and delivered it. 

I'm slowly learnng my way through the Twitte;  Learning more about how to effectively communicate and interact with other groups, individuals and organization that are similar in nature to ours.  We realized some time back that social networking was a viable avenue to reach out, but this month is the first time I have been able to take the time to dive in.

This blog is also our first effort, so any suggestions or "kind" criticism is always helpful. 

I looked at they white board calendar that I have on the wall behind my desk this afternoon and it hit me that we are putting on our workshops for the Presidio of Monterey (CA) Army base next week. 

We've loved traveling to all the various states and bases that we've been to over the past 9 years, but its always nice when you can drive there instead of flying.  I feel very fortunate when we get to do our child and teen workshops.  The Parent workshops are always a given and of course our staff training.  We usually get to do them for the kids and teens too, but once in awhile they either get shortened or have to be cancelled. This time we are getting to do a Kindergarten group, 1st through 3rd, 4th thru 6th and haven't gotten the final word on how the teens are going to be broken out.  I'm particularly excited about these workshops because we usually have to put them all together in largers groups like K-5 and 6-8, 9-12. Is we get to deal more directly with their specific age group and  have so much fun with them.

My tea is almost gone so guess I'll post this blog and see what wonderful new people I can find on Twitterhttp://www.safenetwork.org/.

Sunday, October 18, 2009

First Blog

Hi, I'm Susan Rogers, mother of 4 and step-mother of 2.  Six of the greatest kids in the world.  They have blessed us with 16 grandchildren and 6 great-grandchildren.  I'm sharing my adventure for the first time in its entirety because I believe it will help others understand why we are so passionate about what we do, and why we do it.  In 1998 I founded with the help of my incredible husband, Safety Awareness & Family Education Network, Inc. or  S.A.F.E. Network, Inc.  for short.  Our mission to educate and protect children and teens from sexual abuse, molestation, abduction and exploitation.  A mission I might add that was not a popular one 11 years ago.  But let me take you back a bit so you can get a clearer picture of how this excellent adventure began.

So that there is an additional reference point for later content in this first entry, I also need to explain that at the age of 27 I was raped.  I also have 2 children who were molested when they were very young, by non-family members.  While these experiences were not specific contributors to later events, they most definitely played a part in how those events turned out.

15 years ago, at the age of 50 I sat down to my first computer.  I was determined to make it have more meaning in our home than just another way to entertain ourselves.  Around that same time my husband, Don and I decided to begin homeschooling our youngest son.  He had  just completed 5th grade and that is an entirely seperate subject that would take me off point.  The one aspect of that new responsibility though, was that I knew that computer technology was going to affect his life dramatically as he grew, and knew also that it was important for him to learn how to use it to full advantage.
I built my first website a few months later as a safe environment for him to search the internet through.  We both learned many wondrous things during that first world wide web exploration.  I had no idea at that time that I would soon be entering an entirely new phase in my life.  At that point I was tutoring remedial English students, homeschool and created my own private school umbrella for other homeschoolers, along with working as an instructional aid at the school my son had been attending. 

Looking for a way to bring our lives back into a balance we had missed for awhile I was searching for a way in which we could be of service to our community and perhaps provide a few badly needed dollars as well.  Don and I had worked independently for many years but things in the economy had shifted and he had to find employment working for someone else.  We had been independent so long it felt like pair of shoes that was one size too small.  So sitting down at that computer again I prayed and focused and came up with a simple child safety ID kit that I entitled KidPrints Child Safety ID Kit.  When he came home I asked him if he thought he could sell it.  He was skeptical but, went to our local Office Depot and printed up 25 of them, went to our local Walmart and asked if it would be ok if he did some market research and if people wanted to buy them if it would be ok.  They were very accommodating and said yes.  He was back in an hour and said that he had sold them all.  So we went back to Office Depot and printed up 50 more.  This time he was gone an hour and a half, came back and had sold them all.

Recognizing that we had something worthwhile, I went to work improving and streamlining the kit.  We already had a side business Rogers Marketing Concepts so he went to work after hours and whenever he could contacting schools and businesses showing them how they could give these away to their families/customer base and do some good rather than just giving away pens, pencils and coffee mugs.

We began to see some progress then we started hearing, 'sorry but we can only work with non-profits'. So I researched becoming a non-profit.  When I was creating this wonderful little 4 year updateable id kit I wanted it to have in it everything I'd want if I was buying it for myself.  I did no actual research on what was out there and didn't even really know what authorities asked when kids went missing, but having several children and grandchildren, I had a pretty good idea.  As it turned out, I had everything in it that is needed when a search is started for a missing or lost child. 

After several weeks I had completed the California state non-profit application.  We were thrilled when it came back immediately with no restrictions of any kind.  We had a wonderful Board of Directors and everything in place to begin helping to protect and educate kids and families. 

Those first few years were challenging.  Don kept his job and I still tutored on the side to keep finances going.  Many months we loaned the organization money to meet its mission expenses.  During that time I lost my father (1998) and in 2000 my younger brother passed away.  Our tally of grandchildren had grown and we were being asked more and more to do workshops on child safety.  We were interviewed periodically by the locat tv stations when a child was missing or a sexual predator was arrested.  It kept our name out there. In 1999 I created our official safenetwork.org website to assist in promoting our ID kits and our mission. 

Major changes were beginning to take place.  When my brother died in order for my mother to stay in her home, my husband and I with our son, then 16, moved in with her, build a wonderful large addition to the house for her and made her life easier and happier until she quietly passed away at home in 2006.

In 2001 we had the great opportunity to sell 500 of our ID kits to a local radio station who then had us give them away at the local zoo on Mothers Day to women who came to the zoo.  It was such a big hit they bought a thousand the following year and had us do the same thing.  What we didn't know was that a woman who came through the zoo that second year was from Maryland and had shown this id kit to a friend who was the Family Advocacy Program Manager at Fort George Meade.  She was looking for a give-away ID kit that was more substantial than most of the single sheet kits out there.  She picked up the phone and ordered 600 of ours. Thus began a wonderful journey and relationship with the U.S. Army, and later the Air Force and Navy. 

Many thousands of our ID Kits began to flow through the country going to military families everywhere.  Shortly after we began this great relationship we got a call from one of Don's military contacts.  He expressed the wish that we had some kind of manual or training that we could provide because there were many outlets they had for this kind of material.  So since I had as many years of experience in classrooms, working with educational material and a strong jornalism background, along with 2 years of intense volunteer work with the American Red Cross as trainers in a wide variety of subjects I went to work.  Three months later I had my first K-12 Personal Safety Master Trainer manual.  I created our first game the Who's the Good Guy Poster Game for elementary school children and a visual aid CD.  Thus began the most important work Don and I had ever undertaken.   The mililtary began flying us al over the country to train staff and families on how to use the material and why it was so important that we teach the children not just the parents.

It wasn't long before I realized I needed to add more content and break out the manuals from one K-12 to three.  So the K-5, 6-8 and 9-12 Personal Protection Empowerment Program was born.  I added two more games and we connected with a wonderful man, David Bellman from southern California.  He had a video that shows kids how to escape from a would-be abductor using leverage not strenght.  He also included personal safety tips that fit perfectly into our program.  We've been including it ever since and now have it on DVD rather than video.

Next, Don then felt impressed to contact some local California Native American tribes to see if they would be interested in teaching their children these incredible life skills.  They loved it.  We then found ourselve traveling some to train for them. 

To date we are providing curriculm to 68 military bases (primarily Army), and 52 Native American reservations.  Our clientbase includes, churches, foster agencies, police departments, YMCA's, Salvation Army posts, and scores of other youth groups and thousands of individuals.

From that first very basic and simple KidPrints ID Kit, we now have our BabyPrints and TeenPrints ID kits, our Teen Parent, New Parent and Kid Tips Kids Keeping Private Places Private programs along with our Personal Protection Empowerment Program K-12.  We have added our Parenting Kids Away From Abuse parent guide, and our My Safe Dating Teen Journal.  There are several projects on the drawing board right now that I hope to launch in January 2010. 

The best and most recent news is that we just contracted with the California National Guard and will be hand delivering on this coming Monday 3000 of our parent guides and 1000 of our Teen Safe Dating Journals, along with 5 of our Master K-12 Personal Protection Empowerment sets.  We begin a schedule of staff and family training this month and are really excited about all the hundreds and potentially thousands of additional families, children and teens that will now be provided the skills they need to promote closer families and remove the threat of sexual abuse for all those kids.

Although this is a capsulized version of the last 15 years, I think you get the jist of what makes us "tick".  Children are our most precious gifts from God.  To let the horror of child molesation, rape, abduction and exploitation take away their childhood without doing anything to prevent it is something I can't fathom.  There are so many simple ways to to this, I hope anyone reading this blog feels that passion even just a little bit and asks, 'what can I do'.

Closing for now.
Susan aka SAFEKidsSuz